I do not see too many girls who want to become housewives these days. It is almost as if staying at home and bringing up kids is inferior to having a power job. My mother has been the most important person in the family for the better part of the last three decades. She has pretty much molded our (dad’s included) lives. Now before this turns into a eulogy (are you reading max?) for my mother, let me get back to the topic I have been thinking about.
Right, so why is it today we believe that a working woman is somehow superior to a housewife. The lady with a job brings greater financial security to the household. But the housewife is able to give something which is a lot more important than that: her time. There are some things only a woman can do. Teaching a kid right from wrong is definitely one of them. I believe that making sure that our future generations turn out well is the single most important task we perform today. It is not just charity that begins at home. This is where it all begins. The whole character of person is made or marred during those formative years. The conscience of humanity and indeed its survival depends on the quality (not talking intelligence here) of our people. And it is the mother’s responsibility for the simple reason that she is better equipped for it (I have always known that I am a chauvinist in these matters. But that is how it is).
So why am I writing this today? Because I heard someone talking to a colleague of mine asking her to “put in more work towards getting a management degree, or prepare to just bring up kids and look after your home”. That to my mind is simply not fair. We do not give our mothers the respect they deserve. And as such, no girl would today be willing to be “just a mother”. Besides that there is the issue of financial independence. That seems to me a rather strange argument. I wonder what kind of a marriage it is where one person needs to be financially independent of the other. The concept is so very alien to me that I am not able to produce counterarguments.
I am not a lucky person. Perhaps that is because I used up most of my share of luck when He gave me my mother.
Why do I get the feeling there is a lot left unsaid every time I end one these things?
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Quote: "I wonder what kind of a marriage it is where one person needs to be financially independent of the other. "
The fact that marriages die..... (for whatever reasons)...and that ther are no joint families today..... and the fact that mother's role is limited to as long as the kids are kids (hard fact)....
Gr8 post buddy.
U have put up a pretty correct point but in case u r thinking that this is gonna win u some frnds from the fair sex,u got another think comin.
Wonder how u pulled up the courage to face the music.I mean u have written something that wud be seen as sacrilege by overabitious chics.
God bless u.
Hello Mak,
Thanks for the review....
That did not take much courage since it actually is targetting the men. The plain truth is that we guys do not inspire the same confidence these days, emotionally and more importantly, morally. And from this begin the events outlined in the passage.
And as far as friends anywhere are concerned....I feel honesty is more important than diplomacy....
Ajish I am glad you are writing and I must say I like your style, it is point blank and straight forward. I do agree to the fact that there is nothing inferior in being a home maker and a non-working lady, but given the choice and most importantly circumstances, every one man, woman or child would want to be independant in every sense of the term.
Keep writing!
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